The joys of sisterhood

There used to be a lot of reasons for me to not like being a woman -

- the monthly discomfort due to our periods
- the risks and difficulties of pregnancy, whether wanted or not
- the social pressures and expectations

But there's one thing that women have that somehow offsets all these - women have a strong support system, that thing we call our "sisterhood".

We can go into a party or a meeting without knowing anyone at all but go home with new gal pals.

When we have emotional burdens, all we have to do is call or buzz a girl-friend and pour out all our troubles - and they are always willing to listen.

Repetition doesn't bother us that much because we know that our friend feels better after re-telling her story for the nth time, even if no resolution has actually been decided or even discussed.

We fall in love and get hurt over and over again, and still, our girl-friends patiently sit beside us and hold our hands as we go through another heart break.

So no matter how difficult it may be to be a woman, I'm glad to be one. Because I know that through all those difficulties, my sisters will always be with me.

Cheers to you, sisters!

Why do we put ourselves through this?

Pain comes with love. Every single time. No exceptions.

Anyone who claims otherwise is lying.

Because there is no perfect love. There are no perfect relationships. There are no perfect partners, perfect boyfriend or husband, no perfect person. Of course, Im talking about human love here, so God and His perfect love isn't part of the equation.

When we love someone, we open ourselves up to getting hurt at the same time. Because we when love, we become more vulnerable - it's like we're giving this person a gun while saying "shoot me!". He can pull the trigger anytime, and he will, at one point or another, whether willingly or not.

So why do we put ourselves through this pain time and time again? Why, after getting hurt so badly, do we either go back to the person who hurt us, or we go looking for somebody new to love who we know will eventually cause us pain again?

Because we are wired to love.

There is something inside us that pushes us to keep on looking for that someone who will make us happier, who will make our lives better - who will make us WANT to be better.

There is something there that keeps bugging us to find The One, and wouldn't leave us in peace until we do so.

There is something there that never stops hoping.

And therein lies the problem.

Favorite Movie Quotes

~ I am no one special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who's ever lived: I've loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.~

- Duke, from "The Notebook"

My Dearest Allie. I couldn't sleep last night because I know that it's over between us. I'm not bitter any more, because I know that what we had was real. And if in some distant place in the future we see each other in our new lives, I'll smile at you with joy and remember how we spent the summer beneath the trees, learning from each other and growing in love. The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds, and that's what you've given me. That's what I hope to give to you forever. I love you. I'll be seeing you. Noah.~

- Noah, from "The Notebook"

"Baka kaya tayo iniiwan ng mga taong mahal natin, kasi baka merong bagong darating na mas OK, na mas mamahalin tayo... Yung taong hindi tayo sasaktan at paaasahin, yung nagiisang taong magtatama ng mali sa buhay natin, nang lahat ng mali sa buhay mo."

- Popoy, from "One More Chance"

“i want to stop wondering what if. I want to know, what is…”

—— BASHA , ONE MORE CHANCE

"Hindi mo alam kung gano ko kagustong sabihin sayo na.. sana tayo nalang, tayo nalang ulit. Pero pag sa tuwing mararamdaman ko kung gano kita kamahal, hindi ko maiwasang maramdaman ulit lahat ng sakit. and I'M SORRY. Ako naman ang may kailangan ng panahon ngayon, para makalimutan ko na ang lahat ng sakit, para maalala ko ang lahat ng maganda at mabuti sa atin. Para bumalik ang Popoy na nawala nung ngkahiwalay tayo...I want my HEART to stop breaking, sana pag naging tayo na ulit, kaya na kitang mahalin ng buong buo. na walang halong takot kung masaktan man tayo ulit.”

- Popoy in "One More Chance"

Is It Stupidity To Fall In Love?

Bob Ong said :

"Hindi porke't madalas mong ka-chat, kausap sa telepono, kasama sa mga lakad o ka-text ng wantusawa eh may gusto sa’yo at magkakatuluyan kayo. Meron lang talagang mga taong sadyang friendly, sweet, flirt, malandi, pa-fall o paasa."

It's true.

Some people exert every effort to make you fall for them, and when you do, they just drop you like a hot potato simply because they changed their mind about wanting you.

And it would hurt. Badly.

More so, because you feel like a fool for loving someone and hoping he'd love you back when he never really said he would.

But is it really foolishness to love someone and give of yourself freely without guarantees that it will be reciprocated? Or is it more foolish to play with people's hearts and miss out on your chance at something that could truly be amazing?

A friend told me - they are the stupid ones for not recognizing a good thing when it's standing right in front of them, for letting it pass them by. Our only fault is in falling in love with the stupid people.

So true.

´A failing love is like desperatelyhanging on to something preciousnot wanting to give up,but your hands feel the pain.And, when you finally let go,you´re free from any pain,but your hands are empty.´

He's Just Not That Into You

I watched this movie over the weekend, upon the recommendation of a friend who's growing tired of my wailing about unrequited love... haha.

It was a good recommendation, though, since a lot of the scenes and lines in the movie appealed to me .

* Waiting beside the phone for hours (or days?) for his call, with emotions starting from expecting, to hopeful,to panicky, to desperate, then to irritation - CHECK

* Agonizing over his every move and word and wondering if there's more meaning behind it than appears on the surface - CHECK

* Going over every minute detail of the date and wondering if you've done something wrong which has caused him to NOT call you - CHECK

* Telling and re-telling the story to your close girlfriends, hoping they'll give you encouragement which will enable you to wait for a little bit more - CHECK

* Finally going crazy over his silence that you eventually contact him yourself - CHECK

Haha. Oh well.

I wish I had a friend like Alex in the story, who was patient enough to explain what's behind a guy's words and actions, who will help me understand.

There was something he said that really struck me :

If a guys wants to see you, he will make it happen, no matter what. If he didnt call, that means he doesn't want to talk to you. It's that simple.

Great.

to YOU

as the days pass, the more i fall for you.

even though i still don't know if it's reciprocated.

they say that a person in love is a fool. well, i dont know about the others, but i know I AM.

because it's enough for me to just hear you say you miss me;

because it's enough for me to see your smiling face from time to time;

because im happy just to get a text message from you;

because im content to just talk to you on the phone as a close friend;

because i had never dared to ask how you feel about me, and i probably never will;

because i never demanded of your time more than what you're willing to give me;

because im still hoping...